Life is too fucking short

Life is too fucking short. 

It might sound cliched but it’s true. 

A local man died yesterday from brain cancer.  He was a life-long friend of my sister’s.  He was 30 years old.  A young man.  A young man who left behind a wife and two daughters.  It’s not supposed to happen that way.

We are supposed to live a long and healthy life and die of old age.  But, sometimes life can be cruel.  Life seems too short, no matter how many years we get to spend on the planet.

Live without regret.

Love with a full heart.

Do what makes you happy.

Life is too fucking short.

Fake News!

Trump trumpets this almost child-like phrase regularly on Twitter. The implication is that he doesn’t believe a word of what others are reporting. They are liars.

But how can anything be true? How can we believe anything with certainty?

We can’t.

Sometimes it’s all about blind faith because some things we will never experience for ourselves.  We have to believe in what and who we feel comfortable with and I for one think that the most powerful man in the world (allegedly) should not be taking tantrums on Twitter.  Surely as a world leader, he should be more dignified in his behaviour?  Surely he should have more important things to think and talk about?

There is also a lot of talk about making America great again. The implication is it’s not great. It’s not the most powerful country in the world. He implies he is going to be the saviour.

I recently watched Scandal and though it is a fictional programme, some of the characters resemble (whether deliberately or not) real political figures.  Hollis Doyle in his quest to be president is scuppered when he is exposed as a racist and a bigot.  He reminds me of Donald Trump. He wants to boot certain groups of people out of America, just like Trump.  But what was more notable was the response from his rival Edison Davis when interviewed about his plans:

“…..nothing needs to be restored, nothing needs to be made great again. We are a better nation now that we were 20 years ago, than we were 50 years ago, than we were 100 years ago, than we were at our founding. That is the point of America. We are a country that is always greater than our past. I am proud to live in a country where a black man has a legitimate shot at the White House.”

Video is here.

He is stating that America is great and is always becoming greater through progress; through acceptance of everyone regardless of skin colour, religion, age or gender. POSITIVE progress for an already great country to become greater.

If only Donald Trump watched Scandal. He could learn lessons from its script writers.

We don’t need more hate and discrimination in this world. We need less. We need more patience with others and acceptance.  We need to accept that we are not all the same (in small ways – we’ve got to have our quirks) and yet we are where it matters.  One race = human.

My point is, Trump’s Twitter tantrums are not helpful. How do we know that he is telling the truth in what he writes?  We don’t, just as we don’t know whether anything we read is true.  Yes, some news pieces might be “fake news” and be open to interpretation but maybe that’s not for him to decide.  Maybe he should be more concerned about the fear and alarm he has caused worldwide.  If that’s fake news – prove it. Don’t promote fear and hatred. Promote peace and well-being.  Encourage unity, not division.

One race = human.

Is snoozin’ losin’?

It occurs to me that there’s two things I am perpetually lacking in life. In no particular order:

Money
Time

I would imagine I’m not unique in this.

Can we ever really control this?

To some extent, we have control over our finances.  We know what our income is and can choose our expenditure – well, to a certain degree. Those of us with kids will know all about the money vortex that seems to widen as the kids age.  If we wanted to though, we could be strict. We could be misers. But, where’s the fun in that? You can’t take money with you when you shuffle off  so perhaps it’s futile to worry about it. As long as basic needs are met and some wants, we are fortunate.  However, I do have to admit that more money would be good.  I doubt many people will disagree with that.  I’ll still throw money away on lottery tickets because you never know…

Time.  We all have the same amount of time in a day but we don’t all make use of it in the same way.  I cram a lot into my time; family life, work, studying, exercise, general household chores and other miscellaneous tasks – there’s always something.  It looks impressive written down.  But….I could still do with more!  Working 8 hours a day (5 days a week) does not allow for much free time so short cuts have to be taken from time to time.  I often wonder how I would spend my time if I didn’t have to work for a living.  In all honesty, it’s probably the same as money – the more you have, the more you waste.  I resolve to make better use of my time but ironically, time management takes time.

I have been listening to Eric Thomas recently.  He calls himself the Hip Hop Preacher.  He advocates waking at 4 a.m to start your day, no matter how little sleep you have had.  He thinks people who are serious about success should sacrifice sleep in order to “grind” for longer.  I already do (to a certain extent), regularly only sleeping for around 6 hours which is 2 hours less than the recommended amount.  Less sleep does equal more time but does it automatically equal success?  Could someone really only sleep for 3 or 4 hours and be successful?  Success in this instance, appears to be defined as “rich”.

My Googling proved to be inconclusive.  Several similar articles list successful business figures who apparently function (to a high degree) on only 4 hours sleep but the sceptic in me wonders how this can be true.  Who really knows other than the person in question and their bed partner?  Donald Trump recently claimed that sometimes he only sleeps for an hour and a half.  Really?  Part of me thinks that is a big fat lie though it would allow plenty of time for him to compose nonsensical tweets.

There’s so many unanswered questions about this suggestion. I wonder how many strong cups of tea or coffee it takes to start a long day at 4 a.m.  Or, do any of these people take some other kind of stimulant?  Or, if these people don’t need any kind of stimulants, how do they sustain energy throughout the day?  How do they ensure that the short hours of sleep are high quality hours of sleep?  I’m exhausted just thinking about it.  I’m off to bed.  I have a busy day ahead.

 

 

 

 

 

Kindness. Compassion. Respect. Online.

Like most people, I check in with social media each day.  In recent times, I have noticed an increase in angry posts.  Why is that? I suppose it harks back to my previous post about people being so ready to be offended.
Why is everyone so angry?
Where love and fear mix; a loved one is threatened, you are threatened or if you or a loved one are physically violated, this I can understand. Anger in retaliation. Though anger is not the most productive of emotions, I would be hard-pressed to remain calm if someone hurt someone I love.  It’s justifiable. Love drives us to protect.
But how can we justify online anger? It’s discontentment, pure and simple.  We think our lives should be better because we see images of people apparently living the high life.  It also arises from boredom and put simply, it’s just too easy to vent your spleen online.   The audience is ready-made, in the form of Facebook friends or Twitter followers or whichever platform you prefer.
These days everyone is a politician.
Everyone is a personal trainer.
Everyone is a dietitian/nutritionist.
One religion is better than another.
Everyone is an expert in something.
What about respect? What about respecting that we are all entitled to opinions but we can’t be right about everything?  What about having a difference of opinion without belittling someone or expressing anger?  What about recognising that we can all learn something new?
First world problems are less serious that third world problems so we squabble about politics, sports, fashion.  This is fair enough but people don’t want to learn anything.  They think they are right so that’s that. Full stop.
So what can be done about it?
Kids receive internet safety chats at school to keep them safe from predators.  Maybe there should be more training for adults. The ease of access to the internet via laptops or smart phones isn’t necessarily a good thing if the user is not savvy.  Not all news is real. Not all profiles are real. Personas can be fake.  People can be less than tactful with a keyboard than they might be verbally.  I think we need to go back to basics.
Don’t accept everything as real.
Remember that fundamentally, human beings are good people.
How would you treat someone offline? With kindness and compassion?
Good.
Remember that when you type.
Kindness. Compassion. Respect.

Offended?

Why is it that everything is offensive these days?  Or is it? It’s more likely that people are poised to be offended.  They expect it.  Everyone can have their say via social media.  Everyone can be a social commentator and so most people are.  To be very black and white here, there are three kinds of people;  the offender, the offended and the rare person who is not tied in to social media and current trends.  Some people write what they want to regardless of what others think.  Yes, there will be some writers trying to provoke the PC brigade (see also trolls) but otherwise, it’s just journalism (news) or opinion (social media).  It’s just words.  On the other side are the keyboard gangsters who think they can put the world to rights.

Whenever I look at Facebook, there is a fresh outrage – politics, sport, annoyance over latest craze (bottle flipping, Hatchimals etc) or just plain old anonymous aimed statuses.

Chill out folks!  Why be so angry and offended all the time?  Why not just accept some things as they are and move on?  If you don’t like something, fine.  We all have different tastes, beliefs, morals.  We all have different brains, different ways of thinking about things but think about this – would we be as annoyed about these things if we had to vent our opinion to someone’s face?  It’s just too easy to hide behind a keyboard.

That being said, I totally agree that this is the most offensive image I have seen in a while.  Something has to be done about this!

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Daylight robbery!

Anyway, back to the point.  We need to rediscover patience and tolerance.  Instant access to everything has made us impatient and intolerant.

Two things to consider before typing:

  1.  Would you like to be spoken to with such vitriol as we often witness online?
  2. Would you use those words if you were speaking directly to that person?

 

I’m guessing not.

 

Routine Shmoutine?

Last week, I was on holiday from work.  It was great to recharge my batteries – taking my time to do things, having more sleep and spending time with my husband and my kids.  I thought a break from routine was just what was needed.

However, I’ve since realised I was wrong.  Yes, it was good to be out of the office but with regards to writing, that’s part of my routine I should have stuck with.  I like to wake up early to write and last week I didn’t do that.  This morning when I started this habit again, I realised that I had been missing it.  I enjoy it.  It feels like I have started the day in a productive way when I start by writing.

Next time I’m on holiday, I will keep this part of my routine going, even if it does come after a long sleep 🙂