Is snoozin’ losin’?

It occurs to me that there’s two things I am perpetually lacking in life. In no particular order:

Money
Time

I would imagine I’m not unique in this.

Can we ever really control this?

To some extent, we have control over our finances.  We know what our income is and can choose our expenditure – well, to a certain degree. Those of us with kids will know all about the money vortex that seems to widen as the kids age.  If we wanted to though, we could be strict. We could be misers. But, where’s the fun in that? You can’t take money with you when you shuffle off  so perhaps it’s futile to worry about it. As long as basic needs are met and some wants, we are fortunate.  However, I do have to admit that more money would be good.  I doubt many people will disagree with that.  I’ll still throw money away on lottery tickets because you never know…

Time.  We all have the same amount of time in a day but we don’t all make use of it in the same way.  I cram a lot into my time; family life, work, studying, exercise, general household chores and other miscellaneous tasks – there’s always something.  It looks impressive written down.  But….I could still do with more!  Working 8 hours a day (5 days a week) does not allow for much free time so short cuts have to be taken from time to time.  I often wonder how I would spend my time if I didn’t have to work for a living.  In all honesty, it’s probably the same as money – the more you have, the more you waste.  I resolve to make better use of my time but ironically, time management takes time.

I have been listening to Eric Thomas recently.  He calls himself the Hip Hop Preacher.  He advocates waking at 4 a.m to start your day, no matter how little sleep you have had.  He thinks people who are serious about success should sacrifice sleep in order to “grind” for longer.  I already do (to a certain extent), regularly only sleeping for around 6 hours which is 2 hours less than the recommended amount.  Less sleep does equal more time but does it automatically equal success?  Could someone really only sleep for 3 or 4 hours and be successful?  Success in this instance, appears to be defined as “rich”.

My Googling proved to be inconclusive.  Several similar articles list successful business figures who apparently function (to a high degree) on only 4 hours sleep but the sceptic in me wonders how this can be true.  Who really knows other than the person in question and their bed partner?  Donald Trump recently claimed that sometimes he only sleeps for an hour and a half.  Really?  Part of me thinks that is a big fat lie though it would allow plenty of time for him to compose nonsensical tweets.

There’s so many unanswered questions about this suggestion. I wonder how many strong cups of tea or coffee it takes to start a long day at 4 a.m.  Or, do any of these people take some other kind of stimulant?  Or, if these people don’t need any kind of stimulants, how do they sustain energy throughout the day?  How do they ensure that the short hours of sleep are high quality hours of sleep?  I’m exhausted just thinking about it.  I’m off to bed.  I have a busy day ahead.

 

 

 

 

 

Kindness. Compassion. Respect. Online.

Like most people, I check in with social media each day.  In recent times, I have noticed an increase in angry posts.  Why is that? I suppose it harks back to my previous post about people being so ready to be offended.

Why is everyone so angry?

Where love and fear mix; a loved one is threatened, you are threatened or if you or a loved one are physically violated, this I can understand. Anger in retaliation. Though anger is not the most productive of emotions, I would be hard-pressed to remain calm if someone hurt someone I love.  It’s justifiable. Love drives us to protect.

But how can we justify online anger? It’s discontentment, pure and simple.  We think our lives should be better because we see images of people apparently living the high life.  It also arises from boredom and put simply, it’s just too easy to vent your spleen online.   The audience is ready-made, in the form of Facebook friends or Twitter followers or whichever platform you prefer.

These days everyone is a politician.

Everyone is a personal trainer.

Everyone is a dietitian/nutritionist.

One religion is better than another.

Everyone is an expert in something.

What about respect? What about respecting that we are all entitled to opinions but we can’t be right about everything?  What about having a difference of opinion without belittling someone or expressing anger?  What about recognising that we can all learn something new?

First world problems are less serious that third world problems so we squabble about politics, sports, fashion.  This is fair enough but people don’t want to learn anything.  They think they are right so that’s that. Full stop.

So what can be done about it?

Kids receive internet safety chats at school to keep them safe from predators.  Maybe there should be more training for adults. The ease of access to the internet via laptops or smart phones isn’t necessarily a good thing if the user is not savvy.  Not all news is real. Not all profiles are real. Personas can be fake.  People can be less than tactful with a keyboard than they might be verbally.  I think we need to go back to basics.

Don’t accept everything as real.

Remember that fundamentally, human beings are good people.

How would you treat someone offline? With kindness and compassion?

Good.

Remember that when you type.

Kindness. Compassion. Respect.